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QUERY OF THE DAY: Is love just vanity?

A line from a Bob Dylan song jumped out at me last night:

"The search for love/It ain't no more than vanity."

Is this true? Is love really just narcissism turned outwards?

What do you think? True or false? Explain.

And are there any other literary references to this (presumably Shakespeare)?

this is romantic love we are speaking of, presumably??
Love IS Life.
The object of love is to serve, not to win.
The pain of love and the pain of being alive are one and the same.
You don't just feel love, you do love, act love, live love.
The wise are blinded by love, and fools become enlightened.
Lovers are natures fools...
Love is able to tame even the wildest spirit, and often turns the tamest spirit wild.
Love is inseparable from knowledge..but a love affair with knowledge will never end in heartbreak.
Without love you can do nothing--with love there is nothing you cannot do.
In a relationship, often the three words needed to hold it together are not "I love You"
but "I am sorry".
"One word frees us of all the weight and pain of life; that word is love." Sophocles

so I would say FALSE. true love is the opposite of narcissism and vanity.
Who seeks love thru lies? It is better to be hated for telling the truth than adored for being something you're not.

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here's some of thoughts from our man Will:
" The course of true love never did run smooth."

"No sooner met but they looked;
no sooner looked but they loved;
no sooner loved but they sighed;
no sooner sighed but they asked one another the reason;
no sooner knew the reason but they sought the remedy."

"Age cannot wither her,
nor custom stale her infinite variety.
Other women cloy the appetites they feed,
but she makes hungry where most she satisfies."

and finally, here's some Goethe:
"This is the true measure of love;
when we believe that we alone can love,
that no one could ever have loved so before us,
and that no one will ever love in the same way after us."

having quoted all THAT, I believe that the supreme happiness of life is the conviction that we are loved, and that we are worthy of that love.
and understanding the difference between self love, vanity and narcissism.. and blahblahblah...

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the SEARCH for love is nothing more than vanity
to FIND (true/real) love is NOT


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this last comment is IT.
i was checking back in to see if anyone found the answer...made my day.
so the next query is: how do people STAY in love?
fall in love and stay there.

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No, that's NOT the "next query." The operative discussion here is still "Is the search for love no more than vanity?"

You want to move to the "next" question, start your own fucking blog or go play with yourself on FaceSpace.

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Absoute Vanity.
Our hopes for ourselves - as the most attractive we can be; the most witty, the most talented; the most humble; the most outrageous; the most intelligent. All to hopefully be reflected in the eye of that person that we love so that we can glance a peek at that gleem every now and again, and be our most whole selves -- the one we have the highest hopes of becoming and of being - the one that yearns to be loved and to belong. It is the vanity in us that most often shoots too high and misses the mark - or- not often enough - scores it lucky to hit the bullseye.

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